Advice for a friend in trouble
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May Be I Am
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Posted 2:19 pm, 12/13/2024
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I never got the full story about the baby daddy and it constantly changes from her. This thread did add some clarity. Nice to hear it's really about her own personal responsibility. I've been told she was a user, I guess I just never wanted to believe that. She's been my friend for years now, since we were in highschool.
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antithesis
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Posted 12:35 am, 12/13/2024
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Why do you assume that there are multiple men? Or 3 kids? The OP said neither.
For all you know, the dad could be... dead... in prison... a worse addict than the mom... or worse.
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Uncle Rukuss
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Posted 9:30 pm, 12/12/2024
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So the baby daddies get a free pass and have no responsibility?
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Huckabee
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Posted 9:18 pm, 12/12/2024
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If having children to raise want make her take responsibility for herself and the kids future then there is not much help for her. My opinion on this is to let her pull some time and it should get her off the sauce and drugs and get her to have a reason to lead a normal mothers life. Hopefully she can get her parents to raise her kids for her until she gets her time pulled. Talking them into keeping the kids if they will would be much better than putting them in Foster Care.
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Uncle Rukuss
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Posted 9:01 pm, 12/12/2024
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Where are the men she slept with to help?
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adamwl12
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Posted 8:14 pm, 12/12/2024
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3 Kids and a bunch of Alcohol. Not a good combo.
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antithesis
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Posted 6:44 pm, 12/12/2024
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You're not guilty unless you've enabled her addictions in some way. Everybody is responsible for their own choices and decisions. You might feel guilty, but no one made your friend become an alcoholic and commit those crimes but your friend.
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tmann
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Posted 6:36 pm, 12/12/2024
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Until people want to change they won't.
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May Be I Am
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Posted 6:28 pm, 12/12/2024
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Thanks yall. I'm guilty for not stepping in sooner.
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antithesis
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Posted 5:42 pm, 12/12/2024
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As the others said, there's really nothing you can do to help her. She's dug her own hole, she has to be the one to dig herself out of it.
The kids are the real concern, but think about it objectively. Do you really think they're better off with someone that you've described as having a severe drinking problem? Someone that presumably puts the children in danger?
The best thing that can happen is for her to go to jail, her kids go to a good foster home, and she uses the time in jail to straighten her life out. She has kids, it's time to stop acting like a child...
If you're determined to help, you can talk to DSS about fostering the children if she goes to jail. But then you'll have a tough decision in the future, when she gets out, of whether it's better for them to go back into a dangerous situation.
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tmann
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Posted 5:39 pm, 12/12/2024
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You can't help someone when they are their own worst enemy
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Foxnose
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Posted 5:34 pm, 12/12/2024
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You cannot help her until she is willing to help herself. Even then, there are some people you cannot help
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tell it as I see it
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Posted 5:26 pm, 12/12/2024
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She will loose everything if she continues living that way....sad .....I bet nothing is her fault also.
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DB Cooper
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Posted 5:00 pm, 12/12/2024
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Somebody has to convince her to get off the sauce.
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backontrack
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Posted 4:44 pm, 12/12/2024
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Tell her she ort to stay away Calls cause our sources said theys some fellers out there might take advantage of a little lady when she's on a drunk but don't tell nobody
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May Be I Am
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Posted 4:22 pm, 12/12/2024
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A friend of mine is having the worst year of her life. Can y'all help me give her some advice? First she flipped her car, then she lost her job the day before her birthday, and now she's got major legal troubles with charges pending.. I'm most worried about her kids. She's a single mom. It's really a tragic situation.
Pretty sure it's all because she's got a severe drinking problem. I want to help but I don't want to insult her. What should I do?
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